Wednesday, 8 April 2015

"My Choice"


According to the U.N, women's empowerment has five components: 
·         Women’s sense of self-worth;
·         Their right to have and to determine choices;
·         Their right to have access to opportunities and resources;
·         Their right to have the power to control their own lives, both within and outside the home;
·         Their ability to influence the direction of social change to create a more just social and economic orders, nationally and internationally. 

Indian women have the same rights as far as her choices agree with mine. A patriarchal society decides what you get to do and what you don’t; what’s the big deal with that? People get murdered every day so your freedom is not a top priority right now, so sit tight. We will get back to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is our reality and the little sparks that can actually make a difference we criticize. For instance “My Choice”. 8 million views and most of us didn't even get the point.

Let’s be honest it doesn't really cover every aspect of women empowerment. But what little they said was damn important. And nobody paid attention because everybody was busy lodging their complaint against sex outside of marriage and the rest of the message just went way over most people’s head.

So through this post I would like to discuss why a small so called offensive phrase caused a nationwide attention deficit and what certain smart people made out from the video.

My body, my mind, my choice that is all it is. It doesn't endorse anything else. It just states the obvious choices that there are. It never tells or asks you to have sex outside of marriage, not have a child or come home at four in the morning. It just tells that these are options that have eternally been available to your male counterpart and if you want to do that, it is all right. After all every rule should apply to the whole species right?

As for infidelity why is it that when the husband is at fault you forgive and forget and if you were ever to do the same it is the biggest crime ever. Don’t you think that if you had the same kind of liberties, your partner would be a lot more careful with his choices? And in the end, men if you are devoted husbands who get cheated on by their wives just get a divorce. Why the ruckus?

The liberty to dress as you like doesn't necessarily translate into everyone walking around naked. It just means that I, a woman, get to wear what I am comfortable in whether it is cargo pants or a saree. My own school had a dress code that banned wearing full length jeans and the recommended choice, a saree. Well guess what, I am not comfortable with my stomach showing, now wouldn't a proper T-shirt be less revealing? And why the hell do boys get to wear jeans for the same occasion? They don’t exactly have to wear a saree but a traditional sherwani dress code would have been fair. But that is exactly what our society isn't; it just isn't fair to us women.

We are more comfortable with our boys being out at odd times and with girls it is the “log kya kahenge?” that worries us more than their safety (which is something that we should have ensured). And an Indian women’s only job isn't the propagation of her species or getting married. She has a life which comes filled with her ambitions and if having a child or getting married is not a priority; it just isn't.

There is other important stuff to speak about but that doesn't make this less important. We can’t really wait for every woman to get educated before we fight for her right to make her own choices especially when it is about her own body.

I don’t know if vogue made this video solely for publicity or not but I do agree with what they said. Watch the video, just once more and this time pay attention to other parts.

These are few things that struck a chord with me:
·         Trying to trap my soul is to believe you can halt the expansion of the universe
·         Your mind is caged, let it free. My body is not, let it be.
·         You are my choice; I am not your privilege.
·         My choices are like my finger prints they make me unique.

For once sit back and think of what you liked about the video.

Respect her and her choices cause there is a reason why she is your better half.

Leave comments and we can have a sensible debate.

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+Anony Mous Enjoy slut enjoy your life!

Please be more civilized than that. And of course my answer to that was as follows:



+Fun&Hacks never asked for ur permission; why don't u invest ur energy in something productive like jumping of a bridge or getting psychiatric treatment? :D 

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